What is Stealthing?
“Stealthing” is a term used to describe the act of secretly removing a condom during sexual intercourse, without the consent or knowledge of the other person.
What is rape?
The U.S. Department of Justice defines rape as: “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”
Why is Stealthing Rape?
Stealthing should be considered rape or sexual assault because the penetrative partner did not agree to condom-less sex. The moment the terms of sexual consent are altered, that consent is no longer valid. Stealthing can expose the partner to sexually transmitted infections (STI’s) and pregnancy, along with physical and emotional harm.
What is consent?
Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. Consent doesn’t have to be verbal, but verbally agreeing to different sexual activities can help both you and your partner respect each other’s boundaries.
Giving consent for one activity, one time, does not mean giving consent for increased or recurring sexual contact.
You can withdraw consent at any point if you feel uncomfortable. It’s important to clearly communicate to your partner that you are no longer comfortable with this activity and wish to stop. The best way to ensure both parties are comfortable with any sexual activity is to talk about it.
At the core of the stealthing issue is consent and sexual health. Condoms remain the best protection against STI’s, along with regular testing and screenings. It is imperative that your rights and safety decision are respected and remain intact. If you feel that you may have been exposed to an STI click here to find out where to get tested and treated.
If you feel that you have been the victim of sexual assault, do not remain silent. Please visit https://www.rainn.org/get-help
Stealthing and sexual assault affect men of all sexual identities as well. If you feel that you may have been a victim of sexual assault, resources and assistance can be found here: http://www.malesurvivor.org/find-support/