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  • Miki
    July 30, 2013 - 17:28pm

    How to have hot sex that is safe.

    • William Cooke
      August 26, 2013 - 01:23am

      Ask your doctor if Pre-exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) or Post-exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) is right for you. AHF is doing a grave dis-service to whatever following you have (considering I’m posting this almost a month after the first two comments) by pushing condoms only.

      To too many of those who are legitimately at-risk, condoms remain unwanted and unused, regardless of how many you throw off of an 18-wheeler for that ‘Condom nation” publicity stunt.

  • Jacob
    July 30, 2013 - 17:43pm

    How to ask a partner to use a condom without it being weird.

  • William Cooke
    August 26, 2013 - 01:19am

    I think there are a few things AHF could learn. Imagine you’re gay, the room is dark, the music is thumping, the guy is ready…. If you think you’re going to start negotiating condoms, discussing serostatus or whipping out Saran Wrap for him to lick, you’re sadly disconnected from reality. That didn’t happen 30 years ago, doesn’t happen now, is not going to happen in the future.

    Are you going to discuss PrEP or PEP anywhere on this website? It doesn’t appear you are targeting at-risk populations at all.

    • AHF
      September 4, 2013 - 22:26pm

      AHF does not discourage any doctor – even AHF doctors – from prescribing PrEP to patients who may ask for it. Additionally, PEP is available at AHF Wellness Centers for anyone who feels they may have been exposed to HIV and is seeking a post-exposure preventative measure. However, we do have concerns regarding the efficacy of the drug, and thusly believe prescriptions should be off-label. AHF has grave concerns about formal FDA sanctioning of a drug that poses such potential risks regarding efficacy and/or mis—or non—use or compliance.

      A large issue surrounding PrEP, as with any drug therapy, is adherence to one’s regimen. Many people who are already living with HIV have a difficult enough time adhering to a regular medical regimen to manage their existing condition, so why would someone in relatively good health with no HIV-related medical problems be motivated to remember to take a pill every day?

      If one’s partner is HIV+, that person has a reason to remember to take the pill every day and is using it for the reason it was invented: to protect an HIV- person who knows he or she will be sexually intimate with an HIV+ person from possible exposure. AHF wholeheartedly condones this healthy sexual practice that may be beneficial to people in “magnetic” (one positive and one negative partner) relationships.

      However, outside of magnetic relationships, we don’t feel a chemical response that alters a healthy person’s state of wellness should be the first line of defense against the spread of HIV. That’s why for casual sexual encounters we recommend the simple, effective, non-invasive protection offered by condoms, which also protect against STDs like gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and syphilis where PrEP does not.

      If one is mature enough to engage in casual sex and request an elective medical regimen, we feel that person is more than capable of utilizing a latex condom and some water-based lube.

  • Lizzie
    September 16, 2013 - 21:43pm

    I guess my question is what does the Sexual Revolution 2.0 look like? – does it take place in the halls of government? In the bedroom? online? All of the above?

    To me it looks like more enlightened public policy that promotes safer sex, e.g., condom vending in very public places. But it is also a cultural revolution – where the first sexual revolution was about “free love,” the second would be about “true love” with true love being more protective of our partner(s) and less about self-interest.

    But how does the cultural change happen?

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